THISISAWAR.COM: APRIL 2015 - SEPTEMBER 2015

Welcome!

This month, we're going to look at the way you help shape the future. Have you ever considered how one look or one word – "yes" is just one that comes to mind – can change history?

In no sphere is this truth more evident than that of caring for children. Our culture is one in which the proper nurturance of children is increasingly complicated. Work hours, exhaustion, economic pressures are only some of the pressures. All three are related, and have, in conjunction with a host of other factors, resulted in a global paucity of attentive childcare. So how do we identify the issues holding us back and what can we do about them?

KJS Anand, Professor of Neurobiology, Anesthesiology and Pediatrics at St. Jude’s and the 2009 winner of the Nils Rosen von Rosenstein Award (the Nobel for Pediatrics), described Antonella Gambotto-Burke’s new book, Mama: Love, Motherhood and Revolution, as "undeniably the most important book of the 21st century."

Part-memoir, part-philosophical call to arms, this is a brilliant, passionate and moving exploration of what it is to be a mother and wife in the twenty-first century. What does it mean to be intimate with those we love and what happens when we're not? How does motherhood tie into femininity, sexuality, status? How does society judge mothers and how does this influence them? How do working hours undermine our most important relationships? Why is our value system now exclusively achievement-based rather than based on intimacy?

Critically, what is the future for our children and society in this increasingly functional culture devoid of emotion?

Antonella not only explores this terrain with the great visionaries of modern childcare, but reveals the joys, intimacies and elisions that led to her own metamorphosis: among them, her "corrosive" relationship with her own mother, her 32-year-old brother's suicide, the emotional and philosophical revolution triggered by the birth of her daughter, and the traumatic end of her ten-year marriage.

A beautifully eloquent and thought-provoking insight into the cultural significance of love and motherhood, Mama: Love, Motherhood and Revolution is unique in its scope, challenging our cultural capacity for intimacy. Why, Antonella asks, are we willingly forfeiting happiness in the pursuit of an ultimately meaningless ideal?

Be at the forefront of this exciting social change by preordering this life-changing book at Amazon or Book Depository.

Another step you can take toward happiness is to borrow or buy this DVD. We watched it and fell in love (who can help falling in love with Louise Hay? I mean, really). It is simply impossible not to feel even marginally better after watching it.

 

We are also great believers in posting constructive messages up around the house - some of us use Louise Hay cards, others just scrawl messages in thick black pen on paper - so that everywhere you look, the news is good.

Because the first step to happiness, really, is believing in the possibility of change. Everything flows from there. 

Our inspired Eastern medicine specialist Sarah George teaches ten things most people don't know about herbal medicine here.

Marcus Aurelius, immortalized in Ridley Scott's film Gladiator, once said, "The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts; therefore guard accordingly." In The Deeper Wound, Deepak Chopra writes, "Suffering can be defined as the pain that makes life seem meaningless ... Don't be afraid to ask for contact. Reach out." If you are feeling suicidal, click here.

Browse the site at your leisure. Send relevant links to those you think would benefit. Bookmark the site. And, most importantly, enjoy. (There are also Yahoo! groups relevant to just about every circumstance.) You may want to donate five dollars to Children of the Night, an organization that saves abused children from prostitution. To read more, please click here; to donate, click here. Or buy a family in need the means to support themselves from the Smiles Gift Catalogue here.

Otherwise, enjoy exploring our site (below) and have a wonderful, true, and life-affirming month!

With blessings from all of us at thisisawar.com

* We are not affiliated with any religion, nor do we seek donations. All we want is this: readers interested in intelligent writing. *

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ABUSE
anxiety + panic attacks
bullying + teasing (also for adults)
domestic violence
children damaged by violence
emotional abuse
female sexual abuse
find the right therapist
how to heal your life
learn to love yourself
male sexual abuse
pornography: the impact on children
prejudice
recover from trauma
sexual abuse
recovery from trauma
teenage violence
the axis of depression
the impact of abuse
the nature of abuse: adolf hitler
the ultimate result of abuse
trauma: the treatment

ADDICTION
addiction: for partners
addiction: for partners - how to cope
alcoholism
- children of alcoholics
anxiety + panic attacks
drug addiction
- children of drug abusers
find the right therapist
gambling
health insurance issues
how to heal your life
learn to love yourself
loss of love through addiction
love addiction
pornography addiction
- pornography: the impact on children
prescription pill addiction
sex addiction
sleeping difficulties
the roots of addiction
tobacco addiction

CHILDREN'S ISSUES
anxiety + panic attacks
attention deficit disorder
- ADD/ADHD coaching
bullying + teasing (also for adults)
child health
children of AIDS victims
children of alcoholics
children of drug addicts
children with mentally ill or depressed parents
divorce: the impact on children
down's syndrome
helping bereaved children
help terminally ill children
homeopathic remedies
how to heal your life
just some of the 437 questions
make a child confident
little soul + the sun
loneliness in children
loss of a child
pornography + children
prejudice
the princess bride
trauma: the treatment
raising a child: the rules
violence against children
why children get depressed
why we can't be on vacation while we're still in the driveway

DEBTS
anxiety + panic attacks
awaken that giant, by anthony robbins
bankruptcy
debt-related depression
failure is a gift, by anthony robbins
find the right therapist
five steps out of debt
gambling problems
health insurance problems
it's a wonderful life
preparing for tough times
reevaluate your ambitions
sane perspectives on debt
the gifts of debt
unemployment

DEPRESSION + ANGER
anger
- anger: the solution
antidepressants: the facts
anxiety + panic attacks
cooperation: why it works
debt-related depression
depression: getting through the days
discouragement
eating disorders (bulimia, anorexia)
find the right therapist
homeopathic remedies
how giving of yourself benefits you
learn to love yourself
learned helplessness: the axis of depression
loneliness (general)
loss of love through depression
postnatal depression (PND)
seasonal affective disorder (SAD)
shame + violence
sleeping difficulties
suffering: a new perspective
suicidal urges
- suicide: the warning signs
the biochemistry of hope
the little soul + the sun
the nature of depression
trauma: the treatment
want a different life?

GENDER ISSUES
dave barry's guide to guys
fatherhood
homosexuality
manhood
parenthood
some like it hot
womanhood

GRIEF
a bereaved sister/fiancee speaks
antidepressants: the facts
anxiety + panic attacks
complicated grief
find the right therapist
healing from grief
helping bereaved children
loss of a child
loss of a sibling
loss of a sibling: common reactions
loss of a parent
loss of a partner
loss through murder
- when a child is murdered
- a murder in the family
- when a friend or coworker is murdered
- when a parent is murdered
loss through suicide
- suicidal urges
- suicide: the ultimate memoir
- suicide: the warning signs
shake yourself free of grief
sleeping difficulties
suffering: a new perspective
the axis of depression
the nature of grief
trauma: recovery
trauma: the treatment

HAVE FUN CHANGING THE WORLD
AIDS
arts
cancer
dolphins + the disabled
environmental
- environmental links
how you benefit from giving
international aid
laughter
medical
mentoring
prison
starlight
trek in nepal

A HEALTHY LIFE
adventure
biochemistry of hope
child health
cold sores + shingles: regain your smile
cooperation: why it works
deepak chopra interview
homeopathic remedies
how to heal your life
learn to love yourself
optimism: the only philosophy
radical healing - a new approach
sleeping difficulties
yoga: the art of breathing

HOPE
cooperation: why it works
happiness
how to heal your life
it's a wonderful life
learn to love yourself
the biochemistry of hope
the healing power of laughter

ILLNESS
a western doctor's look at alternative health care
attention deficit disorder
- ADD/ADHD coaching
AIDS
- an HIV-positive writer speaks out
- help those with AIDS
cancer
- cancer as a turning point
- cancer: how you can help
cold sores + shingles: regain your smile
health insurance problems
help terminally ill children
homeopathic remedies
how to heal your life
immune system strengthening diet
laughter donations
learn to love yourself
medical personnel
radical healing - a new approach
sleeping difficulties
suffering: a new perspective
the biochemistry of hope
the healing power of laughter
the loneliness of the sick
yoga: the art of breathing

INSPIRATION
a star
corinthians
david staume's thoughts on life
encountering the sky
footprints
honest abe
how you benefit from a generous spirit
HUG
glenn klausner's page
never give up
reasons to be thankful
the biochemistry of hope
the little soul + the sun
the meaning of inspiration
turn your life around
you're going to change the world

 

OLD AGE
a new perspective on growing old
donate your laughter
euthanasia information
cooperation: why it works
health insurance problems
help disabled children
help lonely children
help terminally ill children
homeopathic remedies
how to heal your life
illness: a new perspective
loneliness (general)

louise hay at 73: an inspiring interview

sleeping difficulties
suffering: a new perspective

the biochemistry of hope
the world needs your wisdom
yoga: the art of breathing

PARENTHOOD
anxiety + panic attacks
birth order
child health
daycare: what all parents should know
divorce: the impact on children
down's syndrome
fatherhood
health insurance issues
just some of the 437 questions
homeopathic remedies
how affection shapes the infant brain
how love makes your baby smarter
how to heal your life
learn to love yourself
make a child confident
make a sick child's dreams come true
raising a child: the rules
reflux: the popular myth of colic / baby's best diet
shame + violence
smacking: why it doesn't work
the healing power of laughter
the world authority on child-rearing
why we can't be on vacation while we're still in the driveway
yoga: the art of breathing

PEOPLE WHO CARE ABOUT YOU
rudolph ballentine
martha beck
dave barry
brandon bays
deepak chopra
margaret dent
antonella gambotto-burke
louise hay
vicki iovine
mark matousek
alice miller

sandi kahn shelton
anthony robbins
james van praagh
neale donald walsch

PREGNANCY
abortion: find a safe place + support
anxiety + panic attacks
child health
conception
down's syndrome
fatherhood
find the right therapist
girlfriends' guide to pregnancy
girlfriends' guide to toddlers
homeopathic remedies
just some of the 437 questions
how to heal your life
immune system strengthening diet
loneliness (general)
postnatal depression

raising a child: the rules
sleeping difficulties
sleeping through the night + other lies
the healing power of laughter
yoga: the art of breathing

RELATIONSHIPS
are you heading for a split?
a story about love
adult children of mentally ill or depressed parents
another story about love
are you codependent?
conflict: end the cycle
cooperation: why it works
how to know god
divorce: the impact
- divorce: the impact on children
find the right therapist
how to heal your life
heartbreak: male
homeopathic remedies
how you benefit from giving
when the other person is to blame
learn to love yourself
loneliness (general)
loss of a partner
on the nature of love
questions everyone should ask before committing
recover from all heartbreak
surviving the loss of love
the axis of depression
the path to love
top ten relationship mistakes
trauma: the treatment
twelve tips for a great relationship
warning signs in a relationship
why men stop believing in love

SITE CREDITS
about us
designer + developer

TEENAGE ISSUES
bullying + teasing (also for adults)
cooperation: why it works
dave barry's guide to guys
dave barry on maths
find a mentor
find sympathetic support
homeopathic remedies
homosexuality
how to heal your life
learn to love yourself
loneliness
make little children laugh
optimism: the only philosophy
prejudice
shame + violence
study problems
teenage violence
teenagers with mentally ill or depressed parents
the axis of depression
the little soul + the sun
the world needs your energy
trauma: the treatment
yoga: the art of breathing

TRAUMA + RECOVERY
anxiety + panic attacks
bullying + teasing (also for adults)
find the right therapist
homeopathic remedies
how to heal your life
raising a child: the rules
recover from trauma
surviving the loss of love
the axis of depression
the impact of abuse
the little soul + the sun
trauma: the treatment
warning signs of trauma-related stress

UNEMPLOYMENT
bankruptcy + debt
find a job now!
find the right therapist
health insurance problems
how to heal your life
it's a wonderful life
learn to love yourself
reevaluate your ambitions
shame
the axis of depression
the pain of unemployment
the transition to unemployment

VIOLENCE
bullying + teasing (also for adults)
domestic violence
emotional violence
find the right therapist
prejudice
recover from trauma
shame + violence
teenage violence + crime
trauma: the treatment
violence against children
violence against the self