1. All children are born to grow, to develop, to live, to love, and
to articulate their needs and feelings for their self-protection.
2. For their development, children need to the respect and protection
of adults who take them seriously, love them, and honestly help them
to become oriented in the world.
3. When these vital needs are frustrated and children are, instead,
abused for the sake of the adults' needs by being exploited, beaten,
punished, taken advantage of, manipulated neglected, or deceived without
the intervention of any witness, then their integrity will be lastingly
4. The normal reactions to such injury should be anger
and pain. Since children in this hurtful kind of environment are
forbidden to express their anger, however, and since it would be unbearable
to experience their pain all alone, they are compelled to suppress their
feelings, repress all memory of the trauma, and idealize those guilty
of the abuse. Later they will have no memory of what was done to them.
6. If these people become parents, they will then often direct acts
of revenge for their mistreatment in childhood against their own children,
whom they use as scapegoats. Child abuse is still sanctioned -- indeed,
held in high regard -- in our society as long as it is defined as child-rearing.
It is a tragic fact that parents beat their children in order to escape
the emotions from how they were treated by their own parents.
7. If mistreated children are not to become criminals or mentally ill,
it is essential that at least once in their life they come in contact
with a person who knows without any doubt that the environment, not
the helpless, battered child, is at fault. In this regard, knowledge
or ignorance on the part of society can be instrumental in either saving
or destroying a life. Here lies the great opportunity for relatives,
social workers, therapists, teachers, doctors, psychiatrists, officials
and nurses to support the child and believe in her or him.
8. Till now, society has protected the adult and blamed the victim.
It has been abetted in its blindness by theories, still in keeping with
the pedagogical principles of our great-grandparents, according to which
children are viewed as crafty creatures, dominated by wicked drives,
who invent stories and attack innocent parents or desire them sexually.
In reality, children tend to blame themselves for
their parents' cruelty and to absolve their parents, whom they invariably
love of all responsibility.
9. For some years now, it has been possible to prove, through new therapeutic
methods, that repressed traumatic experiences of childhood are stored
up in the body and, though unconscious, exert an influence even in adulthood.
In addition, electronic testing of the fetus has revealed a fact previously
unknown to most adults -- that a child responds to and learns both tenderness
and cruelty from the very beginning.
10. In the light of this new knowledge, even the most absurd behavior
reveals its formerly hidden logic once the traumatic experiences of
childhood need no longer remain shrouded in darkness.
11. Our sensitization to the cruelty with which children are treated,
until now commonly denied, and to the consequences of such treatment
will as a matter of course bring an end to the perpetuation of violence
from generation to generation.
12. People whose integrity has not been damaged in childhood, who were
protected, respected, and treated with honesty by their parents, will
be -- both in their youth and in adulthood -- intelligent, responsive,
empathic and highly sensitive. They will take pleasure in life and will
not feel any need to kill or even hurt others or themselves. They will
use their power to defend themselves, not to attack others. They will
not be able to do otherwise than respect and protect those weaker than
themselves, including their own children, because this is what they
have learned from their own experience, and because it is this knowledge
(and not the experience of cruelty) that has been stored up inside them
from the beginning.
It will be inconceivable to such people that earlier generations had
to build up a gigantic war industry in order to feel comfortable and
safe in this world. Since it will not be their unconscious drive in
life to ward off intimidation experienced at a very early age, they
will be able to deal with attempts at intimidation in their adult life
more rationally and creatively.
The biochemistry of the body is a product of awareness. Beliefs, thoughts,
and emotions create the chemical reactions that uphold life in every
Perception appears to be automatic, but in fact it is a learned phenomenon.
The world you live in, including the experience of your body, is completely
dictated by how you learned to perceive it. If you change your perception,
you change the experience of your body and your world ...
A meticulous 1987 study from Yale, reported by MR Jensen, found that
breast cancer spread fastest among women who had repressed personalities,
felt hopeless, and were unable to express anger, fear, and other negative
emotions. Similar findings have emerged for rheumatoid arthritis, asthma,
intractable pain, and other disorders ...
Child psychologists have found that young children are much more deeply
influenced by ascriptive statements from their parents than by prescriptive
statements Ö in other words, telling a child WHAT HE IS makes a much
deeper impression than telling him WHAT TO DO ...
Pain in the present is experienced as hurt. Pain in the past is remembered
as anger. Pain in the future is perceived as anxiety. Unexpressed anger,
redirected against yourself and held within, is called guilt. The depletion
of energy that occurs when anger is redirected inward creates depression
Music is metabolized in the same way as narcotics in that it creates
the release of endogenous narcotics in the body.
A favorite Dolphin Research Center
program, allowing people to enter the dolphins environment and participate
in a playful, structured swim session with the dolphins. Participation
in educational workshops completes the experience. The program costs
$135 per person and requires advance reservations. Minimum age is 5
years old. Children ages 5 - 12 must have an adult in the water with
them for the swim. Understanding of spoken English is required.
Reservations can be made the month before you wish to swim. Call the
reservation line in Florida on (305) 289-0002. For a reservation schedule
and more information about the program, click here.
Absolutely no reservations will be accepted by mail, fax or electronic
The Dolphin Child Department offers dolphin-assisted therapy and recreational
programs for individuals and small groups. The results are carried over
into school, home and community. DRCís commitment to providing life
enhancing dolphin experiences to adults and children with special needs,
illnesses, and disabilities, touch families from all over the world.
Our dolphin interactions act as therapeutic adjuncts, serve as agents
of change, and represent contacts with nature, as well as increase the
capacity for enjoyment through the Dolphin Child Therapy Program and
the Special Needs Recreational Program.
For more information in our Dolphin / Child Therapy Program contact
Joan Mehew, Director of Dolphin / Child Department on: firstname.lastname@example.org
For more information in our Special Needs Recreational Program contact
Kathryn Campbell, Special Needs Coordinator on: email@example.com
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I awoke late that afternoon, having missed all the action.
Amedeo had smashed all the priceless Bossu crystal. Untethered by medication
and his grief, he had placed every glass on the main dining room table
and then systematically aimed them, one by one, at the vibrant family
portrait (in which Georges Bossu, a sexagenarian closet transvestite,
embraced with zeal the thirty-year-old wife he so openly detested, the
two of them decoratively flanked by his gaga children - one heroin-addicted,
the other permanently under observation for extreme suicidal tendencies
- by two different women, both of these women dedicated drunks and professional
former wives; the lot of them remarkably natty in hacking jackets and
jodhpurs, a wicker picnic basket overflowing with glazed hams and maraschino
cherries in the foreground, a fictive pop-eyed bulldog scowling in the
background, and all this set in the Aberdeen green lands of the portraitist's